For 11 years now my husband and I have made our room and our bed community property, we have seen many household wrestling events, fun times, birthday gifts, heartbreaks, and a whole host of other things in our “community” room. When I was growing up my families community room was the kitchen, not the diningroom or livingroom but the kitchen (for family gatherings it’s still the place to be if you want in on the action lol) but here, in my home, it’s our room.
For our children it provides a fun safe place to hang out or hide. Being as such there isn’t much area in our room that hasn’t been explored or exposed (I promise NOTHING x rated for example- one year I was “caught” wrapping Christmas gifts that were flowing out of the closet) and surprisingly enough it is one of the only rooms in our house that doesn’t have a TV.
With each new child we find all the siblings in the bed. When Gabe came home we had all 4 kids in the bed or on the bed asleep. I know there are many out there totally against community beds and to that I say to each their own, what works in one family or situation may not work in another but I personally cherish these times. Are there times that I wish that instead of having our bed hogging preschooler and toddler in the bed that we had our king sized bed to ourselves – you bet your bottom dollar. Have I tried in the past to get said bed hogging preschooler and toddler to sleep in their room? (Got that dollar again) but we still wake in the morning to SteveSteve on Daddys side and GobbyGoo on Moms. I know that soon these times will be over so instead of trying to force a change I’m just gonna go with the flow. Hopefully these two don’t take as long to make the change as their sister did but for now I’ll take the before bedtime wrestling matches, the elementary school gossip, homework help and family time that we are giving to our children on our bed, in our room.