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I HATE stereotypes

There’s been a lot on my mind lately and every time I try to steal a moment to write these thoughts or ideas down something happens then the moment is gone. So I am taking this moment now to get this out there.
Stereotypes are stupid traps that people tend to fall for. The other day as I was watching cartoons with my kids one of my sons asked why the people who talk like his Daddy are always dumb on TV shows. My reply: because someone who doesn’t really know anybody from the South thinks that Southerns are uneducated and do a lot of stupid things. To which my son said, ” my Daddy isn’t stupid and neither is the rest of my family. I don’t want to watch this cartoon anymore because IT’S stupid!” With that comment the TV was turned off and we went outside and played in the yard.
But it got me thinking…..what kind of garbage are we feeding our children where even in the cartoons they watch they are led to believe that one type is better than another? City folks are better than country folks? I disagree. I’m from the city and there are somethings I’m better at (in the city) than my husband. My husband is from the country and there’s things that are “country” that he’s waaaayyyy better at than me. Does that make either of us better than the other? Nope, not one bit. There’s value and lessons to be learned from both which is why we’ve agreed to let our children experience both.
He’s white, I’m black, our children are bi racial. He’s not better than me or I than him and our children aren’t inferior to us both, it’s just the way our family is. I am so tired of people saying this is better or that is better. In the end we are all people as long as we love each other and others what difference does race make? What difference does it make where you where born or where you went to school? The ONLY part that should matter is your character as a human. Do you treat others fairly? Are you slow to judge? Is there tolerance for those who are different within you? These are the things children need to learn. There’s enough ugly, mean spirited, hateful people out there and until we teach ourselves and our offspring how to be the change everyone keeps claiming they want Southerns will continue to be portrayed as dumb and whites will be superior to other races. Homosexuals will forever be persecuted, bi racial children will be ill begotten offspring and the world will continue to rotate on its axis.
Be a REAL positive change, show someone different from you that you understand they are human too by extending a smile, a handshake or even friendly conversation. You may be surprised to find out that “dumb redneck” has a PhD and that “smart” city person dropped out of school in the 8th grade. Be a difference maker not just with words but with your actions. Children the world over are watching us and learning from our examples.


Color blind

The world is full of people who are obsessed with color. I just don’t get it. I am African American, black, negro whowever you (carefully and pc) choose to label it. My husband is caucasian, white (however you carefully and pc choose to label it). Our children are…..bi-racial. But really couldn’t it be argued that we are all multi racial? Is there truely a “pure” race of any kind left on this earth but really does it matter? If so why? Let’s break this down into easy terms shall we. Racisim is saying I don’t like you because your color isn’t similar to mine. So let’s say your best friend looks white but that persons birth certificate lists them as black is that person going to stop being your friend? Come on folks let’s stop being petty and superfical.

Life is not one great big soap opera and the world is not a giant elementary school. True equality starts at home. Teach your children all people were created equal and to be color blind. Like or dislike a person based on your personal interaction with THAT person, not because they look different, talk different or walk different. In so doing lets see how much better the world is for future generations.